Many girls in a relationship are unhappy that a man does not give gifts, or does it very rarely. Often this problem occurs in young and charismatic women who have high self-esteem and do not experience financial problems. In fact, the reason for this behavior lies in the woman herself. To know how to get a man to give gifts, you should study this issue more carefully.
What does a man's desire to give gifts mean?
The main reason for giving gifts is the degree of a man's interest in a particular woman. The indicator of interest is equal to the volume of material investments. To achieve the location of the lady of the heart, the representative of the stronger sex indulges her with various surprises and presents. But some men behave in this way all the time, while others, even in the candy-bouquet period, do not want to show generosity and attention to the needs of the girl.
A present is one of the ways to communicate, and the absence of this moment in a relationship is far from always a sign of a low level of income. Generosity is also not a sign of wealth; in such cases, the correct line of conduct for a wise woman is most often traced.
If there is asceticism and even stinginess on the part of the partner, then this is a sign of mistakes made in communicating with a particular man.
How to improve relationships and fix the situation with gifts
Learn how to accept gifts. This science is available to a small percentage of the fairer sex. Presentation is one of the ways of communication. If a man presents a gift, then he subconsciously expects to see a certain reaction. If a girl says “You shouldn’t have spent so much money,” or “You shouldn’t give such impractical gifts,” then the negative emotions received at the time of pronouncing the phrase are fixed in the subconscious. He does not realize that perhaps the girl thus wanted to show concern.
A lady should be generous with gratitude. Even because of a small present, you need to show positive emotions. It is not necessary to express your joy verbally. It might just be a good mood. The guy will feel significant, and he will have a desire to relive this moment again.
But, there is one "BUT"! There is a difference between "receiving gifts" and "receiving welcome gifts"! And you also need to be able to show this difference to a man: do not show excessive joy if the gift is really not needed and you don’t like it, otherwise you will receive “pans” all the time on March 8th. If a man wants to make you happy, he must understand that you need to give only what you want, even if it is small things, but desired and loved.
A few simple rules for accepting gifts:
- Accept gifts with dignity. If you actively demonstrate joy for the slightest reason, then a man will think that a woman can be content with little. Girls with low self-esteem are not of particular value to men. Excessive shyness can also frighten off the representative of the stronger sex. A girl must sincerely believe that she deserves all the best. To do this, first of all, you should accept what is offered to her with dignity and a sense of self-respect.
- In no case should you demand or ask. The gift is given in good faith. A man himself must want to please his beloved woman, otherwise he will not be able to experience the right emotions. You can provoke a man with light hints or remarks, such as "Very beautiful dress!", Or "Always dreamed of such a brooch." You can also periodically admire the gifts that girlfriends received from their fans. A positive assessment of the generosity of familiar men is allowed, but it should not harm the guy's self-esteem. The main thing in this matter is wisdom and unobtrusiveness.
- You can not show aggression or greed at the time of accepting the present. This is the other side of shyness. An uncontrollable desire to get everything immediately scares off a potential gentleman. If a woman immediately begins to demand too expensive gifts, for example, jewelry or natural furs, then the man feels like a resource and interest in such a lady dries up.
- Demonstrate your independence should be very careful, especially in aspects that relate to gifts.. Even if a woman has made herself and is at the peak of her career, this should not be detrimental to relationships. In such a situation, one should not demonstrate equality and immediately present a return gift. After all, it is very important for a representative of the stronger sex to feel their own significance.
Why a man does not want to give gifts
Society imposes an image of gender equality. A woman often finds herself in a situation where she has to prove that she is a worthy opponent and is capable of much. As a result, many women have developed such abilities as self-sufficiency, purposefulness, initiative and others. A woman begins to set herself goals that would be more suitable for a representative of the stronger sex, for example:
- purchase personal transport so as not to depend on the daily routine of a man, and calmly solve your problems;
- provide yourself with separate housing so that you have somewhere to live with children in case of a divorce from your husband;
- have their own money, so as not to turn to their husband with requests because of their needs.
A man who constantly lives in such conditions begins to relax, because he does not have the need to demonstrate his masculinity or give something material. As a rule, a woman already has everything she needs, or she doesn’t like anything.
In what situations a man does not give anything to a woman
No matter how sad it may be, but often women themselves are to blame for the fact that they do not receive gifts from their chosen ones. And there are many reasons for this:
- You should not expect any gifts in the future if on the first date you take an active care of the safety of the guy's money, for example, to refuse a taxi in favor of a bus. Perhaps the guy will make an offer, but you should not expect generosity and expensive gifts from him.
- You can not put a man in a situation where the presence of gifts is a condition of the relationship.
- If a lady actively demonstrates negative emotions, then they begin to destroy the relationship. These emotions include resentment, humiliation, anger and irritation. Most often they are shown about the absence or low cost of presents.
- In the case when a girl does not know the art of accepting gifts correctly, often discusses the futility or impracticality of the things she accepts, the man loses all desire to please the chosen one. A similar situation arises when she accepts presents with a sour and displeased expression on her face.
- For all holidays, such as New Year or birthday, a woman buys gifts for herself on her own. And she also pays bills, and does not attract a man to this. He just doesn't understand why he should strain. Independence is good, but not always.
- The girl speaks negatively about expensive presentations in a conversation.
- Too violently and actively rejoices at every little thing presented, arguing that in her life there were no more generous gentlemen.
- He is modest or breaks down if a man directly asks what to give.
- The girl often saws the guy, and tries to educate him.
We create a situation in which a man wants to please his beloved woman with gifts
To get what you want, you need to train and make it clear to a man that his gifts are important to you, as a manifestation of love:
- First of all, a man should receive sincere gratitude from a woman. Ways to express gratitude can be different: nice words, emotions, or bodily contact, such as kisses or hugs.
- A strong and loving gentleman demonstrates the importance of a woman in his life, buys expensive and valuable things.
- The couple has a tradition of presenting gifts to each other for no particular reason, just to please the partner.
- A woman should be able to correctly ask for gifts and easily accept them from a man.
- Men usually like to choose a present with a woman and not bother about whether they like the thing or not.
- All gifts must be used for their intended purpose. For example, flowers should be in the most visible place, clothing or jewelry is worn.
- A man should feel respect from a woman.
- There must be a reason for a gift. If it is not there, then the woman should be able to create this occasion artificially.
How to motivate a man to buy expensive gifts
To receive pleasant surprises from the chosen one, you should know how to make a man give gifts. The guy presents them not because he has a lot of money, but because he loves a particular woman. If for a lady gifts are the equivalent of love, then at the very beginning of a relationship it is worth explaining this to a man.
Sometimes men react nervously to the demand for expensive presents. They have a question what exactly this woman needs, money, or himself.
The first gift can be "ordered". To do this, on the eve of an important event or a certain date, you should gently hint what exactly you need as a gift. If the chosen one wants to make a surprise, then you need to make it clear that a particular thing will bring much more pleasant emotions than a surprise.
Important to consider! More or less valuable gifts should be hinted at only after a long period of relationship, and it should be financially affordable for a man. Claiming diamonds after a few dates is weird to say the least.
There is an opinion that if a man asks what exactly needs to be presented, and does not buy exactly what a woman dreams of, she should not express her displeasure. The necessary thing can wait until the next holiday, and the offended chosen one is unlikely. But, if over and over again we accept gifts that we “didn’t quite” want, we give our chosen ones a reason to think that they can decide for us what and when we want and give the first trinket that comes across the road. Therefore, you should not tolerate such behavior, it is better to gently, but immediately explain to the guy that you do not need "anything". A man who wants to develop a relationship will understand and will try to make you happy.
You should show joy from the gift received. Be sure to express your gratitude, and regularly use the gift for its intended purpose. If this is an ornament, then it should be worn, not necessarily without taking it off, but at least in those cases when it fits the image. It is important to let the man know that he pleased with the gift, but at the same time not to overdo it. The rapture may last a few days, but not three or four months.
If all the transparent and not very hints do not bring the desired result, it is worth bringing the chosen one to a frank conversation and finding out exactly how he is ready to show his love. At the same time, it is important to convey to the man what kind of gestures are expected in response. After all, people who love each other can always agree among themselves.
If a woman wants to be perceived as she is, then she will have to meet her chosen one and demonstrate her feelings in ways that are pleasant for him. In a relationship there should be not only romance, but also intrigue. You can take the initiative in your own hands, and present a present first. But you need to be prepared for the fact that such behavior can be taken for granted: once given, it means worthy. And there can be no talk of return at all.
Often a man is afraid to miscalculate with a gift or not to please. To help solve this problem, one should always ask his opinion about fragrances, colors or styles when choosing clothes or cosmetics. If the chosen one is attentive, then he will correctly understand this hint, and will definitely present exactly what is needed.
It is important to remember that no advice or rule will work as it should if there are no emotions in the relationship. In order for a man to want to pamper his lady of the heart, it is necessary to provide him with comfort and give him a sense of harmony. Only in this case, the representative of the stronger sex will need to be close to his beloved woman and pamper her with pleasant surprises.